Friday Fortune- Relaxation & Fun facilitates wellbeing
“Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be.” –Eckhart Tolle
Very often we take life too seriously, constantly nagging ourselves and others on what they should be doing and how we all need to be very conscious of every passing moment etc. Unfortunately no matter what Nostradamus predicted or even our astrologers guide, we are not aware of our last moment and when its approaching...thus living in stress -anxiety -fear of how we will achieve our goals, deliver our responsibilities, only makes it more of drudgery.
Many people agonise over even the smallest decisions and also how things have panned out. They worry about daily interactions with people and the impressions they are making on others. And sometimes even wrestle with each word of a simple email or interaction...
Life starts with an evaluation of height -weight -health; continues about evaluation of grades -numbers -performance etc and finally ends with all gone...no matter how established one is; one can never take the laurels to the other side...however the jostling for the pedestal ends only with the last breath. Some who achieve the entry to the historical accomplishment level, live on, only by virtue of handful of good deeds.
Sometimes seriousness happens when we see everything as evidence of our abilities, values, ethics. When in doubt, question if you’re trying to prove yourself. Everyone has responsibilities and goals to achieve. There are probably countless things you must do and so many people depending on you. Seriousness should be there as per the weight of the situation. You are the best judge to decide the weight of every problem or obstacle you have to overcome.An overemphasis on seriousness in life lends itself to a narrow way of understanding what’s worth your time and attention. It can even make you less productive by making you so nervous about one thing in particular.
You are also likely to misjudge other people’s reaction if you are too serious about everything. A serious attitude makes it difficult to connect better with others. When you stop taking everything so seriously, you make more genuine connections that can have a positive influence on your life. A relaxed personality is not an indication that you are irresponsible, it's just a way to live while you last. The problem with taking ourselves too seriously is that we choose to look for approval — the fear of rejection prevent us from living our best lives. We allow people to become our judges. Fear of ridicule makes us overthink everything. The need for worthiness — pleasing, performing, and perfecting consumes us.
When you wrongly convince yourself that the world is a stage(Shakespeare), you become an actor who must perform to please. That mindset can make the rest of your life miserable.
6 Ways to FIND THE FORTUNE of relaxation, through practice of Fun -Forgiveness -Flexibility -Faith -Frisky -Fantasise
Fun -Start by immersing yourself in your day to day work with a fun orientation. Anything can be fun once you change the definition of how you want to experience the same. Do you want something to be so serious that it starts hurting you...or create fun around your goals! I think the fastest man on earth Usain Bolt says it the best, '"Worrying gets you nowhere. If you turn up worrying about how you're going to perform, you've already lost. Train hard, turn up, run your best and the rest will take care of itself.'' Win from within'' Whilst you are busy worrying about everything you need to sort out, you miss out on enjoying the little things that matter. You miss out on the moments of significance that can make you happy and fulfilled in life. You miss out connecting with people on a deeper level.
Frisky - Imagine a world where everyone took self-care and their own well-being first before stressing about everything wrong in their lives. While things are nowhere near perfect — the sun still rises and sets every day. The sky isn’t falling. It isn’t. The evolution and transformation of everything around us will still continue when we are no more around to witness it. Thus being frisky enthusiastic can sure turn your fortune path... You can probably see this in your own life. You are changing but you are too busy stressing about everything to notice or enjoy the process. If you could get out of your own head, you can go for whatever you have always wanted, but make sure to have fun in the process.
Flexibility - Build and improve your career, but don’t make your career your life. When you are flexible around people and their personalities and accepting about your own, life becomes more relaxing. Spend time with family, friends and colleagues without worrying too much about what they think about you.
Forgiveness -towards self and others is the best way to find peace and calm. When you have anger within for yourself and others you fail to forgive, which in turn nurtures the sadness and anxiety within you. Forgiveness is one of the best tools to soak yourself into universal power that draws the best to you.
Faith -Having faith in self and others is another great way to relax and chill out. ''Your faith shouldn't be in wisdom of men but in power of God.'' (Corinthians 2:3) If we have faith in divine we need to understand that we all are extensions of the divine. Faith inculcates a spirit of joy and blissfulness, devoid of any malice.
Fantasise -Finally living in the world of fantasy, where you float in your dream world, can be a great way to realise your fortunes, which are always in a state of ongoing manifestation. Fantasy also allows your ideal wellbeing at any moment of time.
Do share with us your Sense of fortunes and how you relax into them. What's your ideal fun day? How often do you get to visit your ideal states...Wish you a great weekend.